We may empathize with someone terminally ill but we can never fathom the feelings that he may have. As he cringes in pain, we can only feel pity. As he smiles through agony for his loved ones’ sake, we cannot but feel the shredding of our heart. Such is heroism in the midst of a struggle between life and death.
How can we be of help to the terminally ill? Our presence, our comforting words, our care and proof of love will help ease the pain somehow. To you who are losing this battle and know that your life is ending, please remember that you are blessed much more than the healthy ones. Scriptures tell us in 1 Peter 3:14: “But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed.”
You are not suffering alone but Christ suffers with you. Your suffering is a sharing of the Passion of the Christ who suffered and died for you. Be of steadfast heart because your suffering is also your purification. You are given the chance to suffer here as a cleansing than go through it in the hereafter. If you should be angry and complain, that is normal; but if you redirect such anger and complaint towards penance for yourself and for others, then, it takes on a nobler purpose.
In the same way, if you feel grief, pain, fear, loneliness, and uncertainty, you may steer those feelings to hope, trust, and love for God and for your loved ones. When you do so, you will surrender to God’s will for your life. You will feel a resignation of spirit that, indeed, your time is up and you will be journeying to a much better place. You will want to do things in the brief moments remaining. Forgive yourself, forgive those who have hurt you, make peace with those you were in discord for some time. You will want to leave earth in peace.
Remarkable are those who go out of their way to comfort fellow sufferers, forsaking one’s own discomfort to provide comfort to another. Blessed are those who spread love and cheer in the bleakest moments and leave an inspiration to the left behind that the way to go can be peaceful and full of joyful hope.
Guilt and regret are your enemies. Get rid of those negative influences and confess your sins to the Lord. Know that God loves you and will always welcome you with outstretched arms. You have done what you did in the past and you may regret the things you could have undone and could still do.
Take care to call on the Lord and focus your heart, mind, and soul on Him and He will draw you to Himself. The Infinite One will one day erase all your pain and suffering. “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4